Love is patient

1 Corinthians 13:4a Love is patient…

When you think about words that describe love, patience may not be among the first to come to mind.  It’s true that one of the things usually not portrayed as “love” in society is a patience for others.  Patience means that we are, as James tells us to be, “quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19).  That doesn’t happen naturally.

For most of us, the instinctive way to act is to be quick to give our thoughts on something.  This logically means that we’re not putting listening first.  When we put ourselves before others by not listening, we’re devaluing them and in turn the relationship.  True love waits.  Sometimes this means listening first.

Or, more often maybe, that means putting up with something for the sake of our relationships.  When someone does something that rattles us, how we react makes the difference in whether or not we’re acting in love.  Quick, sharp words are most often hurtful.  Loving, thought-out words spoken with patience will do more than win an argument.  They’ll show the other person that we value them and care about how we make them feel.

True love takes effort, and patience.