Leading in integrity

Proverbs 20:7 (ESV)  The righteous who walks in his integrity—blessed are his children after him!

Sometimes I get wrapped up in thinking about all of the things I have to do to raise my kids right. I think that I’m lacking here or missing this, and I’m focused on what I’m not doing instead of what I am doing. The thing about my kids is, they’re noticing what I am doing and not at all thinking about what’s missing. They see me day in and day out and they are learning more about the world and about life through the way I live.

It’s kind of scary to think about how my kids are forming so much of their worldview on what I’ve taught them through mine. I fail in so many ways to show them a good example. I’m not always polite. I don’t always pray instead of worrying. I sometimes discipline out of frustration and not out of love. It’s safe to say that I fail every single day. So do you, by the way.

There’s one way that I can always be an example worthy of my kids following, though. If I walk in integrity, and never lose that, I will have succeeded. Look at what the Bible says about this. “The righteous who walks in integrity–blessed are his children after him.” It doesn’t say that if I have integrity AND get everything else right my kids will turn out ok. It doesn’t even say that if I try my hardest to do make sure my kids follow God that they’ll be great adults. It just says that they’ll be blessed if I walk in integrity. I can do that. So can you, by the way.

Integrity isn’t about always doing what’s right and never messing up. We all mess up sometimes. I does require us to own up to our faults when we do fail though. That means admitting to our kids when we’ve done something wrong also. It takes humility to actually model integrity. It takes a real dad.